You can’t see it when you pass us on the street. You won’t hear it in casual conversation. But those of us who’ve survived incest live with an invisible inheritance, one that reshapes how we think, feel, inhabit our bodies, and connect with others. For many of us, the…
For incest survivors, safety goes far beyond the basics. This article is written for those who love survivors and want to understand why we sometimes ask for things that seem excessive to someone who hasn’t lived through what we have.
Incest survivors need to feel safe in their relationship before there can ever be peace.
The essential qualities of a romantic partner who supports healing from incest trauma.
Certain emotional, sexual, and relational behaviors in romantic partners can retraumatize incest survivors by mirroring the dynamics of their original abuse.
Romantic relationships, when approached with intentionality and a structured framework, can become the primary vehicle for mutual healing.
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