Author. Artist. Healer. Survivor. After awakening from what I call my Trauma Coma, I realized that nearly everything I believed about myself was shaped by unresolved trauma. Today, I help others heal from the invisible wounds of incest and betrayal trauma. Holey House was born from my own healing journey. It’s a sacred space where souls with holes can transform their pain into purpose, their wounds into wisdom, and their shame into light. From holey to holy, this is where we remember who we were before the wound.
Incest deeply distorts a survivor’s core beliefs about love, power, sex, trust, and self-worth, shaping survival adaptations that feel like truths but keep them trapped in pain and shame.
For incest survivors, their abuser’s needs always came first. Communicating needs wasn’t safe and therefore becomes a skill we must practice.
Over time, trauma can shape their beliefs, behavior, and worldview, often creating patterns of self-destructive thinking and coping mechanisms. Healing in this context involves disentangling the trauma from the core sense of self and rebuilding a healthier, more integra…
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