Welcome to Holey House

This website is for incest survivors, for the partners who love them, and for the therapists that guide them on their healing journey. Inside, you’ll find compassionate articles, survivor-centered tools, healing roadmaps, information about the impact of incest trauma, and many other helpful resources. More importantly, you’ll find community, and a place where you’re allowed to speak, without having to fear being silenced. 

I created this website because for years I searched for a resource like this. I longed for a place where I could find answers about what happened to me, why it happened, the impact it had on me, and what I needed to heal. I wanted to understand and I needed a place where I felt understood. Not in a clinical, diagnostic kind of way, but at the soul level.

After a lifetime of burying my pain, pretending I was fine, and surviving on autopilot I realized that I was a stranger to myself. I struggled with explaining and controlling my emotions. The therapists I did see were mostly ineffective, and my therapy sessions felt hollow. How could anyone possibly help me heal what I didn’t have the words to articulate?

Over years of searching, reading, and learning about incest, I started to put together the pieces of information I found scattered around. In doing so, I learned how to explain the things I was never allowed to say. I created this space because survivors deserve more than silence and dismissal; they deserve validation, education, and practical guidance.